In the words of Janet Jackson, “What have you done for me lately?” Those words could easily be a mantra for emotional blackmailers. They are a dime a dozen in black families. Oh, don’t get your panties in a wad. I know nothing about other ethnicities and truthfully, I can only speak from my perspective. I’m black, was raised in a black family so yeah, that makes me somewhat of an insider on my own unique black culture experiences.
Fuck the dumb shit, emotional blackmailers like my mother used fear, guilt, and money to control others. Although she lived on Welfare then SSI, she always managed to have money stashed away and believe me, some folks in my family as adults felled right into my mother’s web of deceit. She dangled that carrot stick of stashed money in front of their faces like a true mob boss. They couldn’t resist ‘borrowing’ money from her. It was a toxic relationship at best.
Listen, I’m doing everything I can to break the cycle of being an emotional blackmailer and trust me I have a long ways to go. So, I ain’t mad at my mother, if she had known better, she would have done better.
My mantra is that you and I are worthy of abundance. That’s why I’m advocating for a $30 Federal minimum wage law in this country. We all deserve a livable wage no matter what the scarcity consciousness folks tell you. Don’t get me started on Universal Healthcare. 😉
I guess you can say I’m a survivor of being a victim of and perpetrating emotional blackmail.